These URLs are specific to a single execution of your workflow. While the workflow is paused, you can load these in your browser or send an HTTP request to either:
Hitting the cancel_url will immediately cancel that execution
Hitting the resume_url will immediately resume that execution early
If you use $.flow.delay, you can send these URLs to your own system to handle cancellation / resumption. You can even email your customers to let them cancel / resume workflows that run on their behalf.